I am about to bear it all right now. One of the toughest things I have had to deal with is loneliness. How could I be lonely if I live with one cat, one dog, three children, and one husband? Well, that’s a great question. I am not deprived of contact with human beings or animals; I AM LONELY!
According to Wikpedia, “loneliness is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to isolation. Loneliness typically includes anxious feelings about a lack of connection or communication with other beings, both in the present and extending into the future. As such, loneliness can be felt even when surrounded by other people. The causes of loneliness are varied and include social, mental, emotional, or even physical factors. Research has shown that loneliness is prevalent throughout society, including people in marriages, relationships, families, veterans, and those with successful careers.”
I have felt this way on and off all of my life but it has taken me a very long time to recognize it or define the feeling. It hits me very hard when I try to have a conversation with someone and tell them about Middle Miss and some of her disappointments or how her life is shaping up and they have nothing to offer. Instead of saying nothing, or at the very least, “I am sorry, this sucks, etc.”, they turn the subject around to a friend’s high school son who had numerous ACL injuries and his “career” is over. Seriously? That’s all you can come up with? Is that supposed to make me feel better? That young man still has a great future ahead of him. He can go on to a four year college if he chooses and live an independent life. A hurt knee won’t jeopardize his education.
These are probably the times I feel the most lonely. No one else has empathy for our situation. No one else feels the pain I feel. As this keeps occurring especially during this graduation season, I feel it even more.
Middle Miss’ future was stolen from her while riding in the back seat, strapped into her five point harness car seat, singing along to a Blues Clues CD on the way to her sister’s Nutcracker rehearsal. Her future will never, ever be the same. As the surgeon in the hospital said to us the morning after the accident, “The little girl you had before will never return”.